Today at 23 April 2013 Chris Gayle has scored a stormy 175 for 66 balls in IPL season 6. This is the fastest century ever made on any international platform. Still it can’t override ODI’s fastest century for 37 balls by boom boom Afridi.
Gayle had not been performing for many matches for his team and was not included in the West Indies team for some time. He had been under pressure for that also. Than now his team selectors would be thinking what they did.
There are two things which you need to learn from this
You never know what happens.
Whenever there is something pressurizing happens to you, life wants you to get ready for a big ride. I would quote my friends example for this. He says, it’s like an arrow in the bow, before its shot to the target, it is pulled back to create a pressure. So there are 2 things. It’s being pulled back. Action is being made to pull back for the reaction to be moved forward. And the second thing the pressure. If you don’t put the pressure you can’t have the speed of the arrow.
So you never know what’s gonna happen in life. So you better be prepared for that. I would like to quote Tim Ferris here as he says in his book that if you decide to go out on a vocation leaving your business in someone else’s hands what worst can happen? You might lose all of your money, all of your assets might be destroyed due to earth quake and all your bank accounts might be ceased due to some reason but you can still work as a freelancer and earn to live. This is one in a billionth scenario. So go for a vocation and see what happens. So what I need you to know here is always prepare for the worst. It doesn’t mean you disgrace your spirits, it just means expect, and accept it when it happens.
Whenever life holds you back, you are supposed to move forward. You are “SUPPOSED TO”, I said. It’s up to your will. And that’s the difference between you and the arrow. You have the option not to. But you need to. You need to take that pressure, analyze it for good and wait for the right time. Life “WILL” give you chances. If you missed one, wait for the other. Be ready for something good to happen.
(Disclaimer: This post is not meant to harm any image of Fanta. I have actually admired the Fanta brand and told people how there are different thoughts of people)
The reason why I choose this type of title is to make you people feel the same thing I felt and learned about marketing. During my master’s in business administration, I was told to look for a target market first and then try to create products, instead of making products first and then jumping around to find buyers. (Note: exceptions are always there).
As you might know that coca cola was an accidental product and was initially made individually, each glass was carbonized in front of the customer. By the way this was just for the interest developing part.
Coca cola was already world famous at that time, when the world war two came into place. Now there start a new revolution. This war made it difficult for coca cola to deliver it in Germany. So they started to search for the alternative to “REACH OUT” the customers. They decided to make a drink whose ingredients were already present in Germany. A fraction of people like me tried it and rejected the product saying, who will like this? I DON’T LIKE FANTA.
Disappointment! Really! You were expecting a tossed coin to to show the side of your choice? Are you serious. Don’t take me wrong. But is this really a disappointment? I mean when I went through this topic I
was forced to write a post about it even this is not the specialized place for it. Gender disappointment is nothing to worry about.
These are the conditions which make this an issue:
People Around you make it that way.
If the mother ‘suffered’ due to her gender, then she unconciously develops something.
If mothers are having same gender childs already.
There are several other reasons that might cause you to feel that way.
If you or friend or family member is suffering from general anxiety disorder or your brain always remain in working condition then I am gonna tell you a very good and practically implemented self-remedy which will prove to be fruit full if you will follow.
General anxiety disorder or GAD is something in which your brain keeps on thinking something even if you don’t want to. It becomes sensitive and fearful. People suffering from this disease make their sense of imagination more strong unintentionally. Any problem looks huge and unsolvable. Fantasies are made and people try to remain there. It’s stressful and frustrating. A person might not sleep due to brain working.
Here are the treatment therapies of general anxiety disorder or GAD:
First let me explain the nervous system. Brain can be treated as separate entity and can also be fooled in many ways. This type of disorder happens when the secretions of brain become fast. We need to tell our brain to settle down or relax. As I told earlier that brain can be fooled like see the image below:
These lines are parallel but our brain is unable to understand the pattern and thinks that these are not parallel. Same is the case of this disorder; we need to order it not to think.
So RIGHT NOW. Ask your brain, stop thinking. Shake your head like you are throwing all the imaginations, worries and stresses down. Feel like you are free from these worries. You might feel good for a little time and then worries would start coming again. Now this is where you need to be strong. You need to concentrate that you are not gonna worry. And I tell you what. Just practice for a little time and you’ll start seeing the improvements.
Disappointment, dissatisfaction, guilt, frustration and displeasure, most of the people in the world have these feelings. Why, because of what they are doing for living and how they are leading their lives.
If you want to really change your life then this might be a start. See, things won’t turn to 180 degree over night or chances are you won’t succeed for the first time but you must strive to change your life. People normally turn around to see what they can do but lose their focus or hope quite often and return to their pathetic regular life. I will soon write a post about how not to get disappointed when you decide something. So if you are on the starting line to begin the race then let’s get started.
Read the following books:
I am afraid everything has a price, this is really heart throbbing for me also but those authors need to get paid for their efforts. These 4 books (don’t get scared you will enjoy reading each and every word once you get started) are a life changing experience for everyone. You might have read any or all of them if not then they are a must read. These can be read in this sequence.
How to win friends and influence people:
Before starting to jump into the entrepreneurial world you need to know some basics of behavioral ethics. How to deal with people or how to influence people. The core purpose of reading it will be to know the dealing. You know! People have built empires just by having good links and contacts with people. By the way here is the direct link of the book through amazon. Click on the image.
A journey of a person, discovering his passion. It might be a little difficult for non-English speakers but it’s worth reading.
So now you know something about ethics and something about passion it’s time to get motivated. It’s a modern book, not an eighteenth century and it’s a perfect way to get motivated. Gary, the writer, has made a great effort to make you think what you are doing.
The four hours’ work week:
If you are motivated enough to start your own work then Tim Ferris is here to tell you how to work less and be more productive. He is young person and his writing is very impressive. Even if you don’t come to as less as 4 hours you will gain something really good. I am sure you’ll be more productive than ever. This book will even let you decide what to do.
(These are affiliate links and they don’t effect the price.)
Watch income reports of pat Flynn
He was a jobholder until 2009 and his life change since then. He shares his income report every month. Why you need to do this is because it fuels and refuels the energy and the desire to be an entrepreneur. It’s not just the figures. I recommend this because this proves an ordinary person can do whatever he wants.
I watch this continuously to keep u my spirit. And don’t be jealous . click here
Enter the world of interviews:
Mixergy.com is place where you can watch the interviews of all the successful people you know. Mostly internet people. And this is the place to get motivation and learning in combine. Andrew warner is the owner and also read his story.
Now do something.
You can’t drink a glass of water until you pick it up I hope you understand.
Read the lines carefully and if you want to adopt them just print them and stick them to your bed side. You’ll soon be there for what you aim for.
Look into the eyes of the person you are talking too.
Start with humble attitude even if you are “something big”, just start it off with less attitude. People develop an image as soon as the get in touch and if you reviel your self slowly they will be more impressed.
I can write a series on this topic as everything needs to be explained properly, by the way let’s get started.
Listen and respond to others:
Being a good listener is a huge part of the whole “how to keep others happy” theory. If you listen and respond to others respectively it would create sense of trust and importance. When you listen to someone keeping eyes on them would first create a sense of importance and this would decrease the level of discomfort eventually.
Responding to someone is as necessary as listening to them, if you give proper notions and impressions while listening to others would make them more comfortable and hence they would like to talk with you more. This would make them happy if they are in your company.
Make a give and take series:
If you start listening to others and then express what you feel about the topic they are talking about would make them realize you are also knowledgeable but that’s not it. It would create more interest also. Giving right advice in necessary otherwise you can only express your ideas.
Make them feel valuable:
People who make others feel less valuable are not good people indeed. You will not lose anything if you just tell them that they are important to the world. You can highlight there talent or just tell them how much others love them this not only will make them happier but also their self-esteem will grow. (Try to be among those people who criticize you less and appreciate you more). People hesitate to talk to the people who start criticizing them again and again. There will be a level when they will share some stupid things they did or some disgusting stuff or some ridiculous believes they have but don’t respond negatively; actually it’s the time when they have started to TRUST you. Don’t break it. Don’t repeat those things again; don’t let them feel the odd one.
Ask them if they are unhappy:
Ask them to share if they are easy with that. Sharing with others is very much a good meditation and decreases the load from you. If they think you are the one to share, it’s good, but if they don’t consider you worthy enough then don’t worry at least you tried. Just follow the above steps and you will be soon there best buddy.
At the end, listening to others
Responding to things like smiling when there is a need and things like that make the process easy
Giving your ideas and advice is good. Let them complete and then it’s your turn.
Give them self-esteem by appreciating them more and criticizing them less
Ask them to share and be easy to be shared with
You’ll have people around you who love your company like donuts.
I mean whenever I sit down and try to write on a topic; a bunch of thoughts just come up on mind and try to lead in the race of thoughts. I get confused on how to concentrate on one. So from now on I would write whatever comes in my mind and see what it makes.
Things I learnt today were:
Whenever you are going to an interview you need to SEE things carefully. As today I had an interview and on the reception I had to take the passing card and I was so much busy in thinking about the interview that I didn’t enter my details there on the register; the receptionist asked me to fill the details and said: “I hope you will have a good interview but you failed at the very first step.”
A very new and good thing I learnt today was; you are an average of five persons you stay in touch with, so try to be with people who trust in you and will motivate for good things. People with low self-esteem and No desire for success are the ones responsible for your disappointments.
Today I am gonna start once again for my internet business and this is going to be the fourth time I quit and started it off again, if after 5 years I read this article, I need to tell myself at this time I am feeling dumb and taking risk for the fifth time may everything goes well.
I know this is not anything very exciting to start with but I wanted to start like that. I will be producing more productive talks later on and lets begin with high aims.
The advices might not be new inventions but this therapy has a psychological effect. Share it and ask your friends or family to read this if they are facing any problem like broken relation.
There are thousands of people seeking advices on how to heal and get rid of the stress, tension, anger and anxiety after the break up. When I search for this specific term I found a lot of posts and articles but none of them was up to what was needed so I decided to write the actual healer.
So there may be different situation and reasons why you broke up. It might be:
One of you broke up.
It might be due to loss of attraction, rise of disputes or any other case like cheating or doing something unforgivable (from either of the side)
There is another condition when there is not a break up but:
One of the partners disappeared and never came back.
One of the partner is not answering or telling why he left without break up.
So whatever condition might be the reason you are here is to find out the way to heal yourself from the mental trauma you are facing right now. So you are feeling some of the following characteristics.
You are feeling like you have been left alone in this cruel world.
Nobody can love like your partner did.
He/she was very different and you won’t find anyone else.
You can’t face the world now
You don’t find any reason to dress up and enjoy
Everything is finished
Or you might feel anger, stress anxiety
You are feeling you loved him or her by heart and there is no one in the world who can love him or her better then you.
He or she didn’t understand that relationships are very important, why they don’t feel its importance.
You might feel how they moved on so easily? Am I the most stupid person of the world to love like this?
He or she didn’t understand me if they did our relation could be heaven on earth.
To whom will I share all of my secrets?
There is no one who could listen to what I felt and thought. There is no one to understand me.
You don’t have anything to do now. There is nothing which keeps you busy now. Or
You might feel cheated like how the hell he or she cheated on me
I don’t want to talk to him or her again and just want these emotional feelings out of my mind.
I am not feeling pity but just want to get rid of all the memories about him.
So let’s begin the magic.
Imagine it’s just you and me no one else. (If you are in public place save this page and read it alone where there is no distraction)
So you might be the victim or just want to forget something (these are the 2major possibilities)
Our mind is actually programmed to remember the most recent event either its good or bad. If the event is bad it will keep regretting the feeling and the event. Try to remember the days when you were alone and had not met your partner.
Please don’t fool yourself, it’s a therapy and works pretty well if you will believe it so do what I say now.
Were you born with your partner or alone?
When you were alone you somehow managed to live right? Think how? What were your hobbies and what was your schedule. Take a paper and pencil and write it down now. Think hard and see in the past that what your time table was.
Because I am targeting all the market there might be some people who say:
We were together from very early age and can’t do things which were done as a kid.
So try to think what were your hobbies before break up? Which were the things you were not able to give time due to the relationship it’s the time now to do them?
Write all of them.
Now the most important thing to do is to accept the reality. What? Is that so easy, if it was why you would have been searching on Google for these types of articles. But listen to me.
See yourself now. Is that the right thing you are doing to yourself? Think? Feel it that you have accepted that it’s all have been done already.
You are now alone accepting it. Your partner and you are no more together accept it.
But also accept that everything else is the same.
Only your partner is not with you. You might have your family and friends with you? Your boss, teacher and your entire world is there and working as they were before so why to disturb that for one person.
One of my friends Khalil once said a very good thing about relations. That is:
When you get rejected, it’s only that one person who rejected you not the whole world! Why do we see from his or her eyes that rejected you? You are the same person for the rest of the world.
So accept this reality too.
If you are honest you yourself adopt this final technique and you will be set for the success.
Instantly shift your memories whenever your mind manipulates the bad memories. Like if you are sitting alone in your room and bad memories start coming to you just shift your focus to something else like oh I need to help my mom making food, or I need to go brush my teeth, watch TV, play sport, meet a friend, take tea or coffee or anything else.
Forth you need to believe in yourself that you can live and do whatever I said to you. Nobody in this entire world can help you if you are not willing to help your self
Put yourself out of the misery and try to help yourself. Be a healer yourself or this thing will destroy you completely.
If you are willing to help yourself then you will eventually win the battle. And do this like a job.
If you think there is someone who needs healing, give this article to him to read and help others. Share it on social media to make people come out of this pathetic life they are living.
I will be writing here what I learnt from my online experiences, I am good at motivating people and improving their self image. I am also a homeopathic doctor so health is a topic to be discussed too. blogging is my passion.